At a meditation retreat on New Year’s Eve I was asked, “What are you willing to give up to move forward in your life?” Since then this question has been on mind almost every day in 2016.
To me the idea of removing actions, items, and people from my life seemed counterintuitive. If I wanted more in my life, don’t I just keep adding? When applied to mountaineering, backpacking, and outdoor exploring, the idea of senselessly adding more makes no sense. So why not in life too?
Just like planning for a trip I began to ask myself what I needed and what I didn’t. I’m still asking myself that question and would like to share with you what I’ve learned so far.
To Quit is To Make Room
If I want to add something to my life, I have to take something away. We all have a finite amount of energy. One thing I’ve done is to quit Olympic Weightlifting in order to work more on endurance activities (running, stair climbing, etc.)
Focus on the Inspiring
What inspires you? Is it learning a new skill, perfecting a yoga pose, going on a long walk with a friend? With all of the options out there, why give your attention to something that isn’t inspiring? For 2016 I’ve been trying to say “yes” to only the inspiring things. For me this means more time at the gym and less time on my phone.
Everything Has a Time and Place
What was your last friendship that ended? I’ve had a lot of friendships end and in some way or other, the ending has always sucked. More and more I’m trying to accept that things (like friendships, expeditions, vacations and more) all come to some sort of end – but it doesn’t have to suck. If I stand back and appreciate and honour the effect that a person, place, or thing has had on me, then that experience lives on. I’m trying to stay in the moment and appreciate things while I have time with them.
I’m still learning how to quit some things and accept others – tweaking my criteria and growing along the way. I expect that as The Peakbaggers moves forward and our expeditions get longer, my life will get more simple and focused.
What about you? How are you trying to move forward in your life? What tips to you have for growing and quitting? Share in the comments below.